Parenting After Divorce
Three Things Co-Parents Often Forget To Do
1. Take care of yourself first.
Self-care is not selfish, especially with all the twists and turns you and your children will go through as you adjust to the new family structure. The goal is to become a solid foundation for yourself first, so you can stand on it for them.
2. Be a cooperative co-parent.
Learning to work together with your former spouse may be difficult, but it is important. One way to achieve a cooperative working relationship is to see the other parent through your child’s eyes.
3. Solve the problems.
Anger, hurt feelings and competition can keep you stuck. You may become unable or unwilling to find solutions that move everyone forward. When you are parenting after divorce, focus on modeling behavior that teaches your child how to handle life’s ups and downs – to be resilient. When parents change their behavior and model resilience by looking for solutions instead of reliving or staying stuck in the problems, the result is a more peaceful home life for their children and themselves .
ShaRon’s Minibuk – Children and Divorce: Parenting Tips to Help Your Family Cope and Adjust- is perfect in size and content. She is especially proud that her daughters are contributors having written the foreword and created the art work.
This parent’s guide lists behaviors your child may display and the specific actions you can take to calm them as they adjust to your family’s new lifestyle after divorce. Keep this MiniBük handy and use it as a resource to help your child as they mature through different ages and stages of their growth.
“Not only does ShaRon write as a parent who has been through this process, but the inclusion of her daughters in the final project shows that when done right, it is possible to heal after a divorce.” -Ron Lasorsa, Kids Come First Coalition